"the course of true love never did run smooth" William Shakespeare
There is something about forcing my brain to come up with, pull up, out what’s important to me.
Milestones invite reflection and I’ve been thinking about how my marriage has worked out and what nuggets of wisdom I have gleaned these past 43 years. What has made our relationship last? Those years just didn’t happen!
They say, “A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”
So, who in the dickens am I married to? How did I become a wife to someone who is wired differently? I fell in love! I must of seen past everyone’s interpretation and blindness of “LOVE”.
Our story started and I fell for him because he was different and every person uniquely reflects the beauty and glory of God. It is important to understand that we all have a type of brain organization we are born with and some of us have different operating systems for those brains. It was out of God’s goodness that we happened to fall in love with each other before spending too much time together.
While we experience the grandeur of the world God has placed us in, we all experience life in different ways.
Each year has brought me an ever-growing understanding of the complexities of our marriage package.
Looking into the history of our relationship recaptures the glimmers of what brought us together. As I think about our imperfections that make our marriage challenging, yet beautiful, regardless, we are here to glorify God. If we are fearfully and wonderfully made, if a little differently made then it is to focus on God not our expectations.
Oh, the heart aches, I could have saved had I known then what I know now.
PIT FALLS IN MY MARRIAGE:
>For years I figured that my husband should just know and pick up on clues to my desires. He didn’t have a clue. I discovered that if I wanted him to know, I would have to tell him.
>I chose to choose my battles wisely.
>Many times, I had to allow natural consequences to kick in even though it was an inconvenience or seemed illogical.
>It is not my job to nag ad nauseam on grounds I do not own.
>Learning not to panic when hitting the rough patches of difficult terrain.
"But those who marry will face many troubles in this life..." I Cor.7:28
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